The devil in disguise – why not only women, but men struggle with the day to day pressures of social media and how you can avoid it.
Whether you’re a big fan of it or not, social media is a huge part of everyone’s life and it’s definitely here to stay. Maybe you’re dying to build a career as an Instagram influencer, or you use Twitter to reach out to potential clients, or maybe you just like to share your day with the world. However you choose to use it, one thing that’s impossible to avoid is the pressure that comes along with it.
Comparison is definitely the pesky little thief of joy, and one thing that social media does better than everyone is force you to compare your life to someone else. Whether you’re comparing your body with a model worth millions, or making sure your life is definitely going better than that bitch you went to high school with, it’s near impossible to scroll through Instagram and not think about how your life is shaping up compared to others.
So, how the hell do we avoid it? I could wax lyrical for hours about what a wonderful person you are (which, of course you are ), or that what’s on the inside is what counts (trust, it is, who the hell writes “she had a cracking thigh gap” in your eulogy), but the fact of the matter is, we’re going to look, and we’re going to compare.
One of the best ways to avoid obsessing over other people’s lives on Instagram is to just unfollow them. Yep, it’s really that simple. Next time you scroll through your feed; really think about each post you go past. The supermodel with the 6-pack who lives on fresh air or just has extremely good genetics – does she make you feel inspired or motivated? Or does she make you pinch at your stomach roll and want to cry for eating a biscuit at your grandmas earlier? If it’s the latter, just unfollow her. Your life will be better off for it. Do the influencers you follow make you plough through your overdraft trying to recreate their outfits or do they make you look at your own clothes in a positive way and inspire you to wear them differently? If your wardrobe is overflowing, but your bank account has had a minus before it for as long as you can remember, it might be time to follow some different style icons.
That’s my one major rule for creating a healthier social media space – if someone’s post makes you feel positive, uplifted or full of potential, then they’re brilliant and you should keep following them. If they make you feel like your life, body, work, other half is inferior, useless or just all round a little bit shit, then unfollow them. It doesn’t matter whether it’s your favourite blogger or your cousin. We spend so much time scrolling through social media (around 2 and a half hours a day, actually, says digitalinformationworld.com ‘s research), that it makes sense to make sure that it’s a space that’s positive and healthy for your mind.
Once you’ve unfollowed all the bullshit, your account might be looking a little empty; now go out and find accounts that make you feel inspired- whether that’s physically, emotionally or creatively. Follow people that make you want to grow, create and generally become the Bo$$ Bitch that you know you are.
by Faith Richardson
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